What is Love?
// March 17th, 2010 // 2 Comments » // My Thoughts
Don’t be fooled… Love is pain… plain and simple…if you don’t agree then check with the creator of the universe…I am sure he can arrange some learning experiences. There is an interesting facet of love though… the things that we love are the things that we devote our time to…the things we sacrifice for… the people we love are the people we devote our time to… and sacrifice for… so what happens when we begin to focus on other things… and other people?
A key principal of love is found in Matthew 6:24
No man can serve two masters: for either he will hate the one, and love the other; or else he will hold to the one, and despise the other. Ye cannot serve God and mammon.
so we love one and hate the other… strong stuff and a lot of people only apply this verse to money or worldliness… oh contrare! this applies to ANY two objects of desire that are comprised of opposing qualities. Whatever your focus… that is where your energies will be spent… plain and simple…
- Dark Chocolate or White Chocolate
- Rice or Potatoes
- Boobs or Butt
- Baked or Fried
- Work or family
- God or Money
- Video Games or Wife
- Wife or Girlfriend? (yep I said it!)
- Wife or Porn? (yep that too!!)
Do I have your attention yet? all of these things are vying for our affections! The sad truth is that often we trade one for the other and slowly! Its a slow fade when you give yourself away! We cannot help who we are and how we are made… we love attention and we love pleasure and our one desire is to heap as much of it onto ourselves that we can stand! The devastating effect of love is that human love that is injured looks exactly like hate. We lash out and begin to destroy each other and cut ties and alienate each other… entire families are destroyed because relationships are allowed to break down and people begin to choose to love something else… Why would you choose that?!? Its not that we consciously choose to destroy relationships… its just that we choose other relationships… relationships that make us feel better and are not so much work… relationships that are more convenient… relationships that stimulate our minds… relationships that stimulate our emotions… and ultimately at some point … because we are finite beings… we choose to love the one… and hate the other…
Next Stop – Heartbreak Hotel…
The balance point has shifted… you have moved your allegiances… the things you once valued now are worth nothing! suddenly you can recognize with clarity that all of your sacrifice and hardship for the thing that you once loved are so worthless… and there is a measure of truth to that… the people that we sacrifice the most for in love… become the people we detest the most! Once we cancel our “love contract” (I call it the “Injured Love Paradox”) hearts are walled up and even reasonable attempts to re-ignite love are stopped at the gate. When you decide that all of your sacrifices for the sake of love are no longer of value you are practically laying a stick of dynamite at the base of the dam… and lighting the fuse… The dam breaks and all those devalued sacrifices rush downstream and carry you away in the debris. I cannot say this strongly enough…If you decide to devalue the sacrifices you have made in the name of love -by abandoning love- you are effectively turning the keys to all of those sacrifices to satan himself!
If you decide to devalue the sacrifices you have made in the name of love -by abandoning love- you are effectively turning the keys to all of those sacrifices to satan himself!
and he will not hesitate to use each and every sacrifice to cut you deeply and painfully… his goal is for you to abandon love… to lose hope… to reject the idea of sacrificial love… because if he can convince you that the sacrifices are not worth the pain… you become self serving rather than Christ Serving… and his battle is won…
What is love??? Love is pain… love is heartbreak… love is watching everybody close up shop and go home… and holding out… hoping that someone out there still needs you to sacrifice your needs … for them.
Tags: Love, Marriage, relationship, sacrifice







