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Friends

// October 13th, 2009 // My Life

I’m a lover… not a fighter.   it’s true! anyone that knows me well will tell you…  I may be a serious looking bald guy but I am just a big ole teddy bear.  I tend to make friends easily… and.. I take people at face value.  I always give people the benefit of the doubt, (some would say to my detriment) and as much as my mind tells me otherwise, my heart always believes that most people will put others before themselves.  All of that being said, it sometimes feels incredibly difficult for me to maintain solid mutual friendships.  I am not talking about the shallow friendships you make at work or the occasional buddy that shows up to borrow a tool.  I am talking about a friendship that goes both ways… you would do anything for each other, and no matter how busy you are you would drop what you are doing to help each other out.  But even deeper than that a friendship where you can trust each other, for honesty, and for the hard questions.  These days people seem to be just too busy to be good friends, so absorbed in their own lives and taking care of themselves that there is little time to actually take the time to be a friend. Maybe I am spoiled because of my best friend Jonathan, even though we are 16 hours apart, we still talk on a regular basis. Jonathan has often been more of a friend to me than I could have ever expected. He has sacrificed his time and money and his heart as my friend.  Together we have walked through some hard places, and he has been everything you could ask for as a friend. As I look through the people in my life, everyone that I have loved as friends, I find that Jonathan stands alone as a truly loyal friend. At the same time I find that I have become jaded and less open to friendships because so many friends have really only been there as friends while it benefited them.  Is it really that hard to find people like Jonathan?   I think it is really detrimental to our overall well being if strong solid friendships are so few and far between.

Take the time to invest in a real friendship, make some sacrifices, pick up the phone, or just show up  in peoples lives more often.  How good of a friend are you to your friends?

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