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Change, Do You Really Want It?

// October 15th, 2009 // My Life

My wife said something really incredible this last week.  We were taking a walk at a park and somehow we ended up talking about each others idiosyncrasies. Trust me when I say that between Kimberly and I, we have more idiosyncrasies or (idiots and crazies as I like to say it) than you would care to deal with.  Recently we have been evaluating who we are versus who we once were and whether we like who we are as much as we liked who we once were. And a few things came up that we didn’t like… so we were talking about those things.  At one point Kimberly said, “There are some things about you that drive me absolutely crazy! but I will never tell you what they are, because I don’t want to change who you are.”  She went on  ” I see all of these women that get married and no sooner do they have a ring on their finger and they start trying to change him… and six or seven years down the road they start whining  ’you are not the man I married! ‘  they never realize they made him exactly what they wanted…except thats not the person they fell in love with.  I have no desire to do that at all”

Of course I find this to be an awesome quality in my wife… but I had to consider the fact that I have tried to change who she was, and the things I have pushed her to change are the things that I once loved about her… the funny thing… those are the very things that we were discussing on our walk.  The things I missed about her… and her answer to me was…I thought that was what you wanted!?

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